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A place for women to do the self development they need to find love and connection and have authentic fulfilling relationships.
"Every woman deserves to be her best self and enjoy fulfilling and respectful relationships! We’re here to help you break free from old patterns that no longer serve you; to discover the confidence and wisdom you’ve always had and step into a new phase of your life with self-belief and self-respect!"
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If you’re a woman who is struggling with abandonment issues, dating & romantic relationships, boundaries, self-sabotage or tricky relationships with parents or friends, then we’re very glad you’ve found us.
We have courses, webinars, online memberships and more and they have all be designed especially for you. We want to help you break free from self-limiting beliefs and reinvent yourself from the inside out.
Our signature course -
The Red Flag Project Dating Course
Learn How To Screen Out 'Assholes' and Date with Self Respect
is a short transformative program for women who want to escape the depressing cycle of dead-end relationships.
In it, we reveal a new way to approach dating, one that will help you identify the ‘red flags’ early, make wiser decisions and ultimately help you fast-track your journey to love and connection.
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If you’re a woman who is struggling with abandonment issues, dating & romantic relationships, boundaries, self-sabotage or tricky relationships with parents or friends, then we’re very glad you’ve found us.
We have courses, webinars, online memberships and more and they have all be designed especially for you. We want to help you break free from self-limiting beliefs and reinvent yourself from the inside out.
About
Welcome to The Red Flag Project, a place for women to rediscover their true essence and be their best selves in relationships.
Our signature course -The Red Flag Project, is a short transformative program for women who want to escape the depressing cycle of dead-end relationships.
In it, we reveal a new way to approach dating, one that will help you identify the ‘red flags’ early, make wiser decisions and ultimately help you fast-track your journey to love and connection.
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Gemma & Justine
“We have a huge passion for helping women avoid relationships with emotionally unavailable, controlling or narcissistic men. Prevention is key and knowledge is power”
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Meet Gemma
Meet Justine
Clinical Psychologist, Schema Therapist, Dating & Relationship Coach
Advanced Certified Schema Therapist, Trainer and Supervisor (ISST)
BA (Hons) GradDip (Psychotherapy); Cert (Clin Hypnosis)
PhD (UNSW)
Member: Australian Psychological Society (APS)
Member: APS Clinical College
Member: International Society of Schema Therapy
I’ve worked in the mental health field since 1995, one quarter of a century, and it continues to be my great professional passion. Finding the very best ways to make a real difference for my clients, no matter how complex or tricky their situation may be, is something that intrigues, challenges and inspires me every day. Being able to help is something I never take for granted.
Over the past 18 years, I’ve been privileged to work with literally hundreds of clients from every imaginable walk of life, seeking help for all manner of psychological and relationship issues. I’ve had the great fortune to learn from them and gain a deep appreciation for why and how people develop emotional conditions like depression, together with what works – and what doesn’t work – when it comes to interventions!
Dr. Gemma Gladstone
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BSocSc (Hons)
MSocSc
MPsychol(Clin)
PhD (UNSW)
Member: Australian Psychological Society (APS)
Member: APS Clinical College
Dr. Justine Corry
Mental health has been my passion for as long as I can remember. Few things in life are more important.
My professional journey began over two decades ago, first as a researcher for the Clinical Research Unit for Anxiety and Depression (CRUfAD) and later for UNSW.
For the past 15 years, I’ve worked as a Clinical Psychologist in private practice and in 2008 I set up The Good Mood Clinic right here in Bondi Junction with Dr Gemma Gladstone. Looking back, that was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made and I continue to work hands-on in the business every day. I’ve also recently completed my PhD with the School of Psychiatry at UNSW, an opportunity that allowed me to explore the complex relationship between bipolar disorder, anxiety and perfectionism.
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Clinical Psychologist, Schema Therapist, Dating & Relationship Coach
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Hi, Justine and Gemma here. We are both clinical psychologists, schema therapists and dating/relationship coaching with over 20 years experience. We use schema therapy to help people overcome the psychological and emotional barriers to living their lives fully with love and connection being an important part of that. If you want to know more about schema therapy check out our podcast.
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The Red Flag Project has been a 15-year journey for us. It’s a passion-project that has arisen out of our own experiences in love and relationships and in our work with hundreds of women.
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Here’s a 10-second summary of our 15-year journey that eventually resulted in the launch of The Red Flag Project and a life-long mission to help other women also find relationships with emotionally available men (NOT assholes).
Fifteen years ago, we were struggling too. Dating was a nightmare and we were feeling hopeless and exhausted faced with the seemingly impossible task of finding the proverbial needle in a haystack – a lovely, emotionally available guy who wasn’t scared of commitment.
This consumed us – hours and hours of dissecting dates and using our professional knowledge to understand why we kept attracting emotionally unavailable men. We also undertook hours of our own therapy and self-development to understand more.
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Our mission to help other women!
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Our passion for schema therapy arose out of this pursuit – discovering how our schemas and coping styles were keeping us stuck being attracted to unavailable men was a revelation and really set us on the right track.
This notwithstanding, there were days when we had to really push on despite the turmoil because giving up was not an option – we both wanted a partner and family.
Lucky we had each other!
Side-note, if you want to hear more about our dating journey we have discussed it on our podcast – link to episode here.
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Giving up is not an option!
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Fortunately for us our self-development, persistence and strategy finally worked! It wasn’t easy or quick. We had to tolerate being ghosted, stashed, breadcrumbed and rejected (with a lovely side of dick pics). But, eventually we found our current partners Paul and Nigel (we always joke with them that they have passed rigorous testing!).
As we were muddling through our dating dilemmas and schema triggers we saw the same struggle in our clients. We realized that we were now in a unique position to help them too!
So we applied what we had learnt from our own experiences, coupled with our professional know-how, to their dating problems. And guess what! It worked for them too!
Persistence and strategy works!
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We have a huge passion to help women choose emotionally available men.
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Since then we have helped hundreds of women problem-solve why they keep attracting unavailable, inconsistent, avoidant, detached, narcissistic or controlling men and have provided them with our framework to do the EXACT opposite.
We find it so exciting to see women undergo a transformation from hopeless and powerless to optimistic and empowered.
To emerge from feeling unsure and unassertive to having boundaries and self-respect.
Gemma & Justine
We just love what we do!
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Have a look through our free resources and tools. We’ll be updating and adding to these resources as we want to provide you with lots of value and encouragement as well as practical tips to help you meet your personal and relationship goals.
Helpful materials to assist you on your journey!
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Read about our top 10 characteristics of an emotionally available partner. These characteristics of emotional availability can help you judge whether your crush or partner has got what it takes to be lucky enough to have a relationship with you! What we mean by this is that small, seemingly insignificant things that someone does in the beginning of a relationship are important markers of how someone sees emotional intimacy, what they believe is required of them in a relationship and the degree to which they can ultimately commit to you.
10 Characteristics of an Emotionally Available Man
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We all have vulnerable child parts within us who experienced early loss, disconnection, loneliness or neglect. This meditation helps you connect with a vulnerable part of self and reclaim them back into your heart with loving messages.
Join Dr Gemma Gladstone, as she takes you on a journey to reconnect and reparent your inner child.
INNER CHILD
Connection & Healing Meditation
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We are so excited to bring you a variety of online learning opportunities. Our courses allow you to access hopeful & practical information that is easy to consume at your own pace. Online learning is often a great way to compliment your individual therapy or to achieve results without the need to attend in-person therapy sessions.
About our Courses
Courses
The Red Flag Project Dating Course
How to deal with Narcissistic Parents
The Abandonment Awareness Course
The Red Flag Project is an online course for women, based around our 15-year journey and life-long mission to help other women find relationships with emotionally available men (NOT assholes).
The Red Flag Project Dating Course
Courses
It will provide you with access to the invaluable resources and strategies that you need to recognise the Red Flags that signal emotional unavailability, controlling behaviours and undesirable men. Helping you to avoid potential heartache and taking you so much closer to finding the love and connection you deserve!
This program has helped so many of our clients date with an intentional strategy and with a confidence that comes from seeing a bigger picture.
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This course has been designed for adult children of narcissistic parents. It’s incredibly difficult being raised by parents who are self-absorbed, entitled, demanding and unempathic.
How to deal with Narcissistic Parents
For the narcissistic parent, it is essentially all about them. They don’t really see you or hear you. They don’t attend to your emotional needs or accept you for who you are. Instead, they are often judgemental and critical, with an inability to truly reflect on their own behaviour, to take responsibility for their mistakes and to offer sincere apologies. In this course, we’ll define narcissism and teach you how to identify it in your parents. We’ll take an in depth look at the different faces and ‘modes’ of narcissism and the typical interactions you might be having with your parent. We’ll examine the long-term effects and how you can begin to reduce the ongoing negative impacts of narcissistic parenting. We’ll offer you proven management and coping skills and help you establish healthy boundaries. Sign up to be on the waitlist for this course.
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The ‘Abandonment Awareness Project’ is a comprehensive 5-module course which will teach you everything you’ve ever wanted to know about your own ‘fear of abandonment’ and how it plays out in your adult life, especially in romantic relationships.
The Abandonment Awareness Course
An Abandonment Schema (or ‘fear of abandonment’) is very common and affects a considerable proportion of people – both male and female. In this course, we share with you our unique way of understanding your Abandonment Schema and why it is so important to understand how and why it develops, including an understanding of the role of core emotional childhood needs.
This course provides a deep dive into what the Abandonment Schema actually feels like, how it is triggered and the various coping behaviors or maladaptive coping styles people use to manage the schema and how these coping styles don’t help and just perpetuate the schema over time. Knowledge is power and this course provides you with the deep insights and understanding that you will need in order to begin to change the schema so that your abandonment issues don’t continue to run your life.
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We’ll also be bringing you a selection of shorter online lessons in the form of webinars. These will be delivered as live 2-hour sessions including a live Q&A. The webinars will also be recorded for later purchase.
Webinars
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Schema Chemistry Webinar
Available to join now!
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In the main, adult romantic partner choice & selection is no accident. Schema chemistry (a term coined by Jeff Young (Young & Klosko, 1993; Young et al., 2007) refers to the intense feeling we have when we develop a romantic connection with a person who has the potential to ‘wound’ us (emotionally) in the same way we were ‘wounded’ in childhood (by our attachment figures).It relates to the tendency we have to be more romantically attracted to those people who will trigger and reinforce our schemas (or deeply held beliefs about ourselves).
However, schema-driven relationships can also be platonic in nature, including friendships and work relationships.
This 2 hour webinar will provide you with the knowledge to understand why you are attracted to those who trigger your schemas. This knowledge is essential to changing your dating radar and choose love and connection with an emotionally available partner.
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PLUS a community of like-minded women dealing with the same problem.
You are not alone!
Our Signature Membership!
Membership
If you are interested in joining this membership or finding out more simply register your interest here to go on the wait-list and we can let you know about our Founding Member offer when we launch in 2022.
1. Monthly group coaching calls,
2. Focussed masterclasses;
3. Meditations;
4. Emotional and practical support.
When you are trying to change your relationship patterns it really helps to have ongoing emotional and practical support. We want to create a place where women can get the ongoing support and help they need for navigating their way through relationship challenges, dilemmas and schema triggers with:
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Your questionnaire results where we explain your pattern of responses and key take-aways;
Your personalised formulation of schemas, coping styles and coping modes;
Recommendations for further self-development and actionable steps you can take to progress your self-development.
Your questionnaire results where we explain your pattern of responses and key take-aways;
Your personalised formulation of schemas, coping styles and coping modes;
Recommendations for further self-development and actionable steps you can take to progress your self-development.
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A comprehensive battery of self-report questionnaires that assess your schemas, coping styles and modes, family of origin dynamics, and emotion regulation strategies.
A 90-minute one-to-one Zoom call where we discuss:
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Schema Discovery Coaching
The clarity that comes from knowing your own unique profile of schemas, coping styles and modes cannot be underestimated. Our Schema Discovery Coaching includes the following:
Sometimes you just need that one-on-one help and support…..
We still love working one-on-one with clients and have appointments if you want our input in this way:
We offer the following one-on-one:
1:1 Coaching?
Coaching
In our podcasts, we take an in-depth look at the common issues our clients bring to therapy and offer listeners new ways to think about their own lives and the people around them.
We’re all about helping you break unhelpful life patterns, getting to the crux of the issue and helping you find real solutions.
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Podcasts
Some of our favourite topic for discussion include relationships, dating, personality issues, narcissism, coping with the narcissist in your life, parenting, romantic chemistry, love templates, grief & loss issues, self-development and self-empowerment and lots more!
We love Schema Therapy and applying it to every possible issue we can think of.
With a mixture of conversations, meditations, case studies, and interviews, we hope to bring you plenty to think about and loads of valuable ideas as well as some practical tips.
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