Itâs Not You.
Itâs Your Self-Fulfilling Prophecy.
Break your negative life patterns once and for all and live your most authentic life.
JOIN NOW!"Itâs Time You Met Your Schema(s)..
A schema is therapy talk for a deeply held belief thatâs formed when your early emotional needs are not met as children or adolescents. These beliefs become deeply engrained, are mostly unconscious, and affect everything â including how you feel, how you think, how you behave and what kind of decisions you make.
So, when you end up saying yes to a date with another unavailable person because the chemistry is off the charts, thatâs your schemas talking. Enter, your self-fulfilling prophecy!
But youâre not alone.
We all have schemas influencing us and underpinning our behaviours. That is until we become aware of them and start to break the patterns consciously.
If youâve ever said to yourself âWhy am I in this predicament again? I swore I would never find myself here after the last timeâŚ
This is for you.
Break The Pattern. Change Your Life.
Take a look at these common patterns and what happens when you learn how to break them.
Before becoming a
pattern-breaker
You keep saying yes to dating partners who you have strong sexual chemistry with thinking thatâs what you *should* be looking for in a partner.
Ultimately you arenât treated very well, the relationship doesnât progress and you fall back into self-doubt and self-criticism thinking âWhatâs wrong with me?â
After becoming a
pattern-breaker
You know that your schemas are triggered by emotionally unavailable partners. Youâve learnt not to trust these feelings because theyâre a schema.
You learn how to have boundaries without guilt and shame and you choose to end dud relationships early which reinforces your sense of self-respect and confidence.
Before becoming a
pattern-breaker
You are âtossed aroundâ by other peopleâs needs and demands because it doesnât feel ârightâ to say no to them.
You find yourself reflexively saying yes but then feeling resentful towards the person down the track but when you think of changing your mind, intense guilt arises.
The swing between resentment and guilt is exhausting and may even result in burnout.
After becoming a
pattern-breaker
You have a clear idea of whatâs important to you and how you want to invest your time.
You know how to say no without feeling mean or selfish and can tolerate people not being happy with you.
You feel more competent and effective in your relationships and increasingly find yourself in relationships where your boundaries and emotional needs are respected.
Before becoming a
pattern-breaker
You strive to always do your best and canât tolerate the thought of not âperfectingâ something.
Underneath the striving, youâre desperately scared of making mistakes. Youâre irritable at home and want things done your way.
You prioritise getting through lists rather than spending time with your family.
When youâre stressed you can really damage your relationships because youâre cranky and demanding.
After becoming a
pattern-breaker
Youâre less anxious about making mistakes which means you can stop some of the striving.
You realise that youâve got a shame problem which is caused by a deep fear of being rejected for not being good enough.
You notice the inner critic inside you and challenge it with insight, self-compassion and a new sense of whatâs realistic.
Importantly, you realise you can still be successful without these impossible standards.
Hey! Weâre Justine & Gemma.
We are two very passionate schema therapists and coaches who want to help you benefit from what this amazing therapy has to offer. Â
For over 20+ years weâve seen the amazing transformations our clients have made in our brick-and-mortar private practice. And now we want to help more people make more changes for the better.Â
Of course we have had to work on our own schemas in the face of our own challenges in life.
We also happen to have our own personal history with each having a narcissistic parent which does give us an innate empathy and insight into the pain of this common life experience.Â
Or as we like to call it:
Welcome to being human.
The Schema Circle
The Schema Circle draws on the concepts within Schema Therapy - an effective and transformational therapy developed by Dr Jeffery Young, a psychologist in the U.S.Â
The Schema Circle is the first membership program of its kind that shows you how to harness the power of schema therapy to make changes for good.
When you start to heal your schemas, hereâs what happens:
- Youâre able to handle, tolerate and transform your negative emotions.
- Youâre authentic and effective in your communication.
- You learn how to make decisions that take care of your future self while also honouring your needs in the moment. You get the best of both worlds.
- You finally discover that elusive work-life balance and your relationships are thriving.
- You live your values.
The result? Healthy Adult Mode.
Your 'Healthy Adult' is the part of you who wants the best for you. Thatâs what schema therapy is all about.
The best for you.
Here's Whatâs Included In The Membership
Access to the Know Your Schemas Course
Where each module has been designed to give you the foundational knowledge required to really start healing your schemas and break those life patterns that no longer serve you.
Access to The Deep Dive Library.
Our deep dive masterclasses are essential to helping you develop a strong Healthy Adult mode and begin to heal your schemas.Â
Current deep dives available are:Â
Dealing with Difficult Parents
Boundaries and Schemas
Triggers: Understanding and coping with schema activations
Transforming Shame to Strength: A key factor in developing a strong Healthy Adult Mode
Healing Your Vulnerable Child (Inner Child)
Schemas and Trauma: Understanding trauma and schema development
Meeting and Transforming Your Inner Critic
3 x Monthly Zoom Coaching Calls
CALL 1: Ask us anything where we answer your questions about schemas, schema healing and pattern-breaking each month.
CALL 2: Schema-Skills where we focus on skills building and take you through a new practical tool each month to help you break your schema-driven patterns.Â
CALL 3: Schema In Focus where we discuss and explore in-depth, one schema at a time.Â
Private Facebook Group
Access to a private Facebook group community where you can interact with other group members and ask questions. Weâll also be popping in to answer questions from time to time.
Safe, Supportive Space
A supportive, non-judgemental space to explore your schemas and pursue your self-development goals. You can engage & ask questions anonymously in the group coaching calls if you wish.Â
Imagine
Handling, tolerating and transforming your negative emotions.
Becoming more authentic and effective in your communication.
Making decisions that take care of your future self while also honouring your needs in the moment.
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Your relationships are thriving.
Youâre living your values.
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Youâre living the best version of yourself.
The truest version of yourself.
The Schema Circle will help get you there.
But I Donât Want To Change My PersonalityâŚ
Friendly reminder that:
- You are not your 'anxiety'.
- You are not your 'people pleasing'.
- You are not your 'perfectionism' - to the point of being a stressed out mess.
Those are controlled by your schemas. And by challenging them you become an even more authentic, healthier version of you.
Healing your schemas wonât change who you fundamentally are. That person is already there, waiting to emerge.
Welcome To Your Most Authentic Self
Let us introduce you to Sam.
Sam had a really big problem in her romantic relationships. She had been stuck in this painful loop for years...and the loop looked like this:
Sam would choose a partner who was critical and controlling because her schemas meant she always found faults with partners who were kind, caring and available.
After a few months of one-to-one therapy, Sam started avoiding relationship disasters by spotting her old schemas and breaking patterns.Â
Enter: a new potential suitor. And things were going surprisingly well.
It wasnât until the third date when he revealed a critical, contemptuous side of himself that caught Sam off guard. Â
Initially, Samâs old schema popped up, telling her to keep quiet and say nothing.Â
Luckily though, Sam had just watched the Deep Dive in the Schema Circle on Boundaries. This gave Sam the confidence to do the opposite of what her schema was telling her to do, so Sam spoke up.
âI donât like how you spoke to me just then, it was critical and unwarranted.â
Needless to say, this boundary didnât go down well and Sam ended the relationship there and then. At that moment Sam became a pattern-breaker.
Now, Sam is convinced that if she hadnât watched the deep dive in The Schema Circle on boundaries, she wouldnât have felt the confidence to speak up, break the pattern, and heal her schema.
Even though Sam was in between sessions, she still managed to find the information needed to handle this situation in a strong Healthy Adult Mode.
Here's the thing about your schemas. explained by Dr. Carl Jung
"Until you make the unconscious conscious,               it will direct your life and you will call if fate."
You can only articulate and live your best life when you can fully acknowledge what implicit processes are driving your decision-making beyond your awareness.
This is part of the reason why we love schema therapy so much, Itâs such a strong, cohesive framework for making the implicit explicit.
In The Schema Circle we give you knowledge, insights, skills and strategies for change that give you the increased capacity you need to be in your Healthy Adult mode.
Remember, the Healthy Adult is the part of you that wants the best for you.
Thatâs what The Schema Circle is all about.
The best for you.Â
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